Are My Feelings Justified?

Parents’ responses to their crossgender children vary. It can be very hard to create an environment to enable children to express themselves in ways most natural to them. We may get uncomfortable, embarrassed, nervous or afraid. Feelings of denial, anger, fear, doubt, grief, and worry are normal, and part of the path to acceptance, understanding, support, pride and joy.

Another common yet often unexpected feeling is that of loss. Families, parents, and siblings may feel a sense of grief at the idea they are “losing” their son or daughter, their brother or sister. Even though the child is alive and well, changing gender can elicit strong feelings of loss. We may experience periods of sadness, anger, and mourning as we (or our other children) come to terms with our child’s new identity.

Assumptions About Gender Identity

Pressure to Conform

Conflict Within the Family

Siblings

Am I Alone?

 
 

All web site content copyright ©2007 - 2008 Gender Spectrum

 

 

 

web site design by Bigfish Smallpond